Every interaction we have with someone else involves a transference of energy. Sometimes we can see or feel this energy on an emotional level – think about the person who smiles at you as you walk past and then you feel really good, or the person who you see crying and you feel sad for them and wonder what happened.
When it comes to your friendships, you already have an understanding of what that energy transference is going to be. If you’re excited and keen to see them, then it’s likely your previous interactions with them have been positive and you’re keen for some more of that good energy.
If you’re dreading seeing them, you kind of want to cancel, or you feel like you need to muster up a whole lot of energy just to catch up, then whether you realise it or not, that’s your body’s way of trying to protect your energy because it knows that negative energy requires fuel to keep going, and that’s why you leave exhausted.
A good healthy friendship has a good flow of positive energy and leaves you feeling uplifted and energetic when you see your friends.
If this isn’t how you feel after you see your friend, then you may have a toxic friendship.